"In the past couple of weeks I have made the decision to no longer give meaning to the word “slut.”

Or skank.

Or whore.

Or any other word used to degrade a girl for embracing her sexuality.

Why have I made this decision?

Because those words are fucking empty.

For years I have been a part of an environment where the label “slut” can be slapped on a girl at any time and for any reason. It has nothing to do with the number of partners she has had, and everything to do with misguided opinions and quick judgements.

For years I have been a part of an environment where girls struggle to fight against that word. To preserve an image in which they are looked upon as pure. And as the girls around me fight to maintain this image they only enforce the reasoning that it is not ok to be ok with sex.

For years I have been a part of an environment in which being a virgin brings you to a higher status in the eyes of some, while earning you the title of being “tight,” or a “prude” to others. So how do you win? This same thought process leaves girls feeling as though there are only two options; you are either a saint or a sinner.

This is wrong. A woman’s decision to have sex (along with a man’s) is THEIR choice. There is nothing wrong with choosing to be physically intimate with who you want, whenever you want. And the same goes for choosing not to. It is disgusting that people should be pushed into either decision.

No, these are not entirely original thoughts, but they are on my mind. I just needed to get this out of my head. It makes me sad that I ever did call girls these words.

Maybe you don’t agree with any of this, but coming to the thoughts that went behind this post has been an incredibly liberating and beneficial experience for me."

-mymotherkillstheblackbird.tumblr.com